Breast Cancer...BOOOOOO!!!!

A friend recently received some life changing news.  She has breast cancer in both breasts and is in need of a double masectomy.

Now, I am the type of person that ALWAYS uses humor to cheer my people up.  I have thought all day about what I could do or say to take her mind off of the inevitable.  I thought about going the route of "Why is it that men don't have a mammogram equivalent?  They could call it the Manogram and squish their boys."  However, this made me cringe more than it did laugh.  I mean everyone knows that women handle pain a lot better than men do and while mammograms hurt we have already had our girls yanked on in so many different ways that it just doesn't seem as bad as squishing the family jewels.

Then I thought of writing some meaningful sonnet about how I am here for her and whatever she needs she can find in me, but that sounded way weird and while we are friends and all we aren't dating and that just seemed to be a bit much.  I mean I want to be there for my friends and of course I would be, but there is a line that should not be crossed without some sort of restraining order being issued.

My next plan of attack was I will make her dinner.  I got really excited about this prospect.  I made my dad's famous spaghetti, I was so excited to call and let her know that she could take her mind off dinner tonight because I have got it covered for her.  Then I tasted the sauce.  I'm not sure if I left salt out all together or what happened but this stuff is not my dad's famous spaghetti and to be quite honest I think she is suffering enough.

So, I've got nothin' no witty standup bit, no meaningful note, no delicious dinner.  What I do have is this.  I don't know what you are going through but I do know that you will never be alone.  I can't tell you what it is going to feel like or what is around the next corner  but I can tell you that I can listen.  I'm not going to be the type of person that makes you rehash it every time I run into you because if it were me I would want times where everything is just as it was before this huge load of crap was dropped in my lap, but please understand this.  My not mentioning it is not that I don't care.

I want to say it's going to be okay.  I want to say this sucks.   What I will end on is God has a plan in all of this.  He knows exactly what he is doing.  You are a blessing and light to so many.  May that be returned to you in this your time of need my friend.