People clearly don't care for what I'm serving up!

I have a very unfortunate resting face.  It makes me come across as stern and unapproachable.  If you know me you know that is completely not true and you walk right past the scary door into the land of happy go lucky.  However, there are many that do not bask in this knowledge and for that I apologize.

I went to a wedding on Saturday.  There were a few people there that I am pretty sure were under the curse of the misperception.  Well, two of them anyway.  One of them just straight up doesn't like me and I decided long ago that there are just going to be people in this world that don't have a palette for what you are putting out there and that is totally ok!  It doesn't mean you aren't on someone else's menu it just means you aren't on theirs.  Come to terms with it and move on.

Why is it that we feel like we have to please everyone?  Why is it that we allow others to influence our joy in a negative way?

My husband spotted two of the individuals right off and said Hey!  Look!  It's those people that don't like you.  Now.  I just want to say.  One also does not need to allow everything that comes to ones mind to come out ones mouth.  I am well aware of the haters I don't need to have it reiterated.  Some things are better left unsaid, but that is another entry entirely.

I will admit I traveled down the path of self loathing and discontent.  I allowed myself to think that there was not a soul on this planet that cared for the quirky sense of crazy I offer up to the universe on a daily basis.  I mean if you must know I have relatives that don't care for it.

I snapped out of it pretty quickly when I realized I was having fantastic time seeing the beautiful faces of friends I haven't seen in decades, and laughing with a friend as we took silly pictures of ourselves to send to a friend that couldn't make it.  I met new people that were friendly and outgoing and blissfully unaware of all the weird I was holding back!

Every morning you wake up you have thousands of choices.  Live your life like a giant scavenger hunt to find joy.  There are going to be days when it is much harder to find but it is always there.

I am thankful for you my friends.  Thank you for braving my unfortunate resting face and dancing in the land of crazy!

She is getting married!!!

Almost 3 years ago I wrote about a friend of mine that was tired of answering the questions of why she had never gotten married.  This weekend she gets to show off the man that she was waiting for.  The perfect for her happily ever after man that God had planned for her.  I am thrilled to be able to go and witness this blessed event and I just wanted to touch on once again how important it is to be still and wait.  

I scrolled back through messages that she and I had shared and I found one that I find is excellent advice and yes it is my advice and yes I am saying that something I came up with is excellent.  I want you to know that my friend has a highly intelligent head on her shoulders and did not need my advice, but I am always willing to share my advice especially if I feel I can make someone laugh.  

She had been asked out by someone that she wasn't sure about going out with.  I imagined that she was struggling with the decision and thought that maybe she should investigate every opportunity to find wedded bliss.  Again, I want to reiterate she was more likely than not perfectly firm in her convictions but here was my response to her situation....  

How about an analogy?  You are on a world tour. You are experiencing the finest delicacies and sights this world has to offer. You are on a journey that leads to genuine joy and true happiness. You get hungry and decide to stop at the It'll do cafe for week old meatloaf in Podunk, backwoods America.  You get food poisoning and die a slow painful death.

Being single is not the worst thing that could happen to you.  I will add that being in a difficult relationship is not the worst thing that could happen to you either.  Happiness is a choice!  Get out there and live your life because you only get one!!  

Allergies

I have a real issue with something.

Just because you don't understand something doesn't mean that it isn't legitimate.  I can remember standing in the parking lot of my kids school listening to another mother rant over how the only thing her daughter would eat was peanut butter and she wasn't going to allow her child to starve just because some kid in her kid's class was allergic to peanuts.

My filter broke that day.  I let the woman have it, whereas I am normally quite reserved.  "Let me get this straight.  There is a child that if he ingests peanut butter will go into shock and die, but because your child will not eat anything other than peanut butter this child's life doesn't matter?  How about just the bread will your child eat just the bread?  That way no one has to die."

I'm not saying it was my finest hour but it sure made me feel better.

I am allergic to artificial sweeteners.  If you were to look at me you would probably think I need to cut back on sugar in order to lose weight.  Now, I'm not saying that isn't somewhat true but my problem lies more so with a non-functioning thyroid than it does with sugar, but thank you for your concern.

People are always trying to "healthify" their recipes by taking the sugar out.  Can I just say adding a chemical to your baking does not make it healthier.  Sugar, in moderation, is way better than chemicals created in a lab to make things sweet.  In my personal situation, even some natural sweeteners will cause me to have a headache, but if I get a hold of some artificial sweeteners it is full on migraine.

If you do not have allergies, be ye thankful!  It doesn't mean that those of us that do have allergies aren't as fabulous as you it just means we are different from you.

Mainly if you are a big restaurant chain and you are going to change a sauce that you have used since like forever and you don't deem it necessary to tell the general public.  Shame on you.

Get up and try!!!

I have read parts of a news item where a woman was lost on the Appalachian trail and sat down to wait for someone to rescue her.  She sat and waited for over a month and died in her sleeping bag inside her tent.   I can not wrap my mind around this story!  Who spends a month starving to death waiting for someone to come and rescue them?  Why on earth wouldn't you at the very least follow the sun and stay west or east or whatever direction you are going.  Walk until your legs won't walk any more and die of exhaustion but don't just give up and hope that someone else will save you!!!

Is there a situation in your life right now that you are waiting for someone else to "fix"?  Something that is causing you to be stagnant and slowly starve to death?  Stop it!!!

God gave you a brain and God gave you talents!  Get out there and fix whatever it is!  You were created for a purpose and if you don't serve your purpose no one else can because they are too busy serving their own purpose.  Feel the rush of empowerment flow over you!  You can do it!  You might feel weak, you might get off course but you can't just sit down and give up because with that you will die, maybe not literally but on the inside.  You are special!  Get out there and show the world why you were put on this planet!!