My son and husband were upset with one another this morning. My son was running late and my husband told him that he could not style his hair. My son did it anyway and told my husband that he didn't. Well. Hello. You have gel in your hair dude it's pretty obvious. So my husband got upset for having been lied to.
We got in the car and I asked my son why did you lie to your daddy? He said I didn't. I said you did. He said no, I didn't style my hair I never touched the hair dryer or brush I just put gel in my hair. See what he did there? I said son, you knew what daddy meant therefore it was a lie, now, it was a half truth you did not technically style your hair but you were well aware of what daddy meant. Right? Right. So, now you have lost a little bit of your daddy's trust because you lied to him and he knew you were lying do you understand? Yes, but!!!
Why is there always a but? He had his reasons. His reasons were extremely valid. Had he explained his reasons to his father I am positive my husband would have let him accomplish his task and probably would have even helped him.
Why is it that our knee jerk instinct is to lie? Cover up? Mislead? Why are we so prone to make ourselves look better, perfect, faultless? I would much rather you tell me the truth to my face, even if it hurts, than to know you are lying to me. My closest and dearest friends that have stayed that way for years have at one point or another either hurt me or shocked me by their honesty.
I don't need to hear what you think I want to hear. I want to hear what I need to hear. What is the problem? The issue? How can I fix it? If I don't know there is a problem how on earth am I ever going to learn so I can fix it? A true friend wants their friends to succeed. A true friend will put your achievements on the same plane as their own.
I explained to my child why his father was upset and he understood. I explained to my husband why my son did what he did, he understood. Understanding breeds harmony. Harmony is a good thing. Go out there and be kind. Realize that we are all flawed. Give mercy...Give grace.
Friday, March 11, 2016
Thursday, March 3, 2016
Who are the least of these?
I have probably already written about this because it is just one of those topics that sticks in my head. I have witnessed several situations lately where the individuals were extremely proud of themselves for going out of their way to bless "the least of these". I just have one problem with this. What determines that someone is a "least of these"?
Money? Does one assume that because you are wealthy and others aren't that anyone who doesn't have as much money as you do is a least of these? That seems silly to me because while money can indeed help alleviate the stress that comes with paying bills or buying the things that one wants it can also bring the uncertainty of not knowing who your true friends are and also bring the stress of keeping up the lifestyle that you have placed yourself in.
Popularity? If I do not have a crowd of people around me does this make me a least of these? I don't have tons of friends so I am not worthy? What if I don't have tons of friends because I take friendship very seriously and I am sensitive to the fact that there are only so many hours in a day and if I want to be a true friend that invests myself into a friendship I have to set limits. I'm not talking about acquaintances I'm talking about close spill your guts out, don't worry about what they are going to think about you friendships.
Job? If my position is that of service therefore I am not as good as you are? What if I don't want to be a doctor or a lawyer? What if God placed on my heart to serve people? What if I want a job that at the end of the day I leave and the job stays within the hours of 9 to 5 and there is not stress that invades my home life, my family?
Do not assume yourself to be better than someone else. Do not look down upon someone because of your assumptions. You have no clue how happy or unhappy they are with their life. If things were stripped away from all of us and we were left naked and alone wherein would you find your happiness? Would you be able to be happy without things? Without people?
Be content with yourself. Do not create a levels system that you evaluate those around you and mentally place them accordingly. Go about your day trying to make this world a better place just because it is the right thing to do and not because of how people will perceive you or praise you. Go out and just be kind.
Money? Does one assume that because you are wealthy and others aren't that anyone who doesn't have as much money as you do is a least of these? That seems silly to me because while money can indeed help alleviate the stress that comes with paying bills or buying the things that one wants it can also bring the uncertainty of not knowing who your true friends are and also bring the stress of keeping up the lifestyle that you have placed yourself in.
Popularity? If I do not have a crowd of people around me does this make me a least of these? I don't have tons of friends so I am not worthy? What if I don't have tons of friends because I take friendship very seriously and I am sensitive to the fact that there are only so many hours in a day and if I want to be a true friend that invests myself into a friendship I have to set limits. I'm not talking about acquaintances I'm talking about close spill your guts out, don't worry about what they are going to think about you friendships.
Job? If my position is that of service therefore I am not as good as you are? What if I don't want to be a doctor or a lawyer? What if God placed on my heart to serve people? What if I want a job that at the end of the day I leave and the job stays within the hours of 9 to 5 and there is not stress that invades my home life, my family?
Do not assume yourself to be better than someone else. Do not look down upon someone because of your assumptions. You have no clue how happy or unhappy they are with their life. If things were stripped away from all of us and we were left naked and alone wherein would you find your happiness? Would you be able to be happy without things? Without people?
Be content with yourself. Do not create a levels system that you evaluate those around you and mentally place them accordingly. Go about your day trying to make this world a better place just because it is the right thing to do and not because of how people will perceive you or praise you. Go out and just be kind.
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