Do you have any memories that are burned in your brain? Ones that will rear their ugly head at the strangest of moments? One of mine is from when I was in the 5th grade going in to the 6th grade. The bus driver when we were in elementary school was so kind to us. She knew us by name and would interact with all of us personally. She gave us little presents and treats and I genuinely enjoyed the ride to school. Spring of 5th grade year she told us all goodbye for the summer. Fall of 6th grade year so less than 4 months later I had now started middle school. I was nervous and worried and fearful. I stepped on to the bus and it was the same driver. A sense of relief poured over me until...I said hello and she glared at me. I tried to speak to her and she yelled at me to get on the bus I was holding everyone up. She was my bus driver for the rest of the time I rode the bus and she was never kind again. Always hateful.
Looking back on it I assume it was we were now middle schoolers and some people don't like middle schoolers or high schoolers. I guess it could have been something had happened to her over the summer that changed her but my first deduction better suits this blog post so we will go with that...
If you check in to a hotel and have a bad experience do you then assume that ALL hotels must be bad? If you have eaten hamburgers all your life and loved them but then you have a bad one do you then say I hate all hamburgers? Of course not! You would know that this was an isolated case and you have to take each situation into account before you decide. If you have several bad hamburgers in a row by all means become a vegetarian but again its you...not them.
Why is it then that we don't give other human beings this same courtesy? A certain age group. A certain race. A certain gender. I met a two year old once that was hateful I must hate all small children. WHO DOES THAT? Shockingly enough most people!
Get out of your comfort zone and start gathering more data maybe that two year old was hungry and hadn't had a nap. Be the bigger person. Be kind to the eye rolling teen because you too were once an eye rolling teen that knew everything. I promise on the inside they are still a scared little elementary schooler that just wants someone to be nice to them.
Get off the bus. Be kind.
Monday, September 18, 2017
Sunday, September 17, 2017
Singing mice will eventually drive you insane.
Do you ever get the feeling that you are being perceived incorrectly? Like people don't like you or value your opinion but if only they knew you, truly knew you they would want to hang on your every word and be with you always? Do you assume that because others have more friends than you do or post more pictures of their perfect family and their perfect life that you are less than? Don't even get me started about the number of "likes" a person has.
May I be the first to tell you, get over yourself! I do it too of course we are all human we all do it. I will see a picture of a group of ladies going to dinner and think "hey! wait a minute! I know all those ladies Why didn't I get invited? I will then secretly judge all of them for weeks. I'm not saying it's the right thing to do I'm just being transparent. The thing is people aren't thinking about you or judging you anywhere near as much as you think they are. They also didn't necessarily forget to invite you on purpose. Tables are only so large and once you get past 4 to 6 you can't hear what's going on at the other end of the table anyway!
The truth is it is hard to plan gatherings. You are always going to leave someone out or forget someone obvious, and then feelings will get hurt and friendships will be strained, you know unless of course we are all adults and NOT TAKE EVERYTHING PERSONALLY!!!
We are all just trying to get through this crazy thing called life without getting hurt, problem is we do get hurt, often actually. It's how we learn. If you touch a stove and burn yourself, you don't touch the stove again without being more careful the next time. Plan an event yourself, I promise it will very quickly open your eyes to how hard it is to include everyone. You will realize that people will misinterpret your intentions and there will be hurt feelings. (There always are.) Hopefully, the next time you aren't included you will realize it just isn't all about you.
You are you! Be you. Don't try to be something you aren't to fit in and be liked, because then the world would be missing out on what you are supposed to be! What if all of the Disney princesses wanted to be Cinderella? We would have one story that I promise would eventually get old. You can only watch singing mice so many times before wanting to scream.
Go out, be you, be kind!
May I be the first to tell you, get over yourself! I do it too of course we are all human we all do it. I will see a picture of a group of ladies going to dinner and think "hey! wait a minute! I know all those ladies Why didn't I get invited? I will then secretly judge all of them for weeks. I'm not saying it's the right thing to do I'm just being transparent. The thing is people aren't thinking about you or judging you anywhere near as much as you think they are. They also didn't necessarily forget to invite you on purpose. Tables are only so large and once you get past 4 to 6 you can't hear what's going on at the other end of the table anyway!
The truth is it is hard to plan gatherings. You are always going to leave someone out or forget someone obvious, and then feelings will get hurt and friendships will be strained, you know unless of course we are all adults and NOT TAKE EVERYTHING PERSONALLY!!!
We are all just trying to get through this crazy thing called life without getting hurt, problem is we do get hurt, often actually. It's how we learn. If you touch a stove and burn yourself, you don't touch the stove again without being more careful the next time. Plan an event yourself, I promise it will very quickly open your eyes to how hard it is to include everyone. You will realize that people will misinterpret your intentions and there will be hurt feelings. (There always are.) Hopefully, the next time you aren't included you will realize it just isn't all about you.
You are you! Be you. Don't try to be something you aren't to fit in and be liked, because then the world would be missing out on what you are supposed to be! What if all of the Disney princesses wanted to be Cinderella? We would have one story that I promise would eventually get old. You can only watch singing mice so many times before wanting to scream.
Go out, be you, be kind!
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