Every morning when I get out of the shower I notice it. It's a 4 inch scar on my stomach that came from one morning when I had just gotten out of the shower and I could hear the timer on the oven going off. I was home alone and had put a batch of cookies in to bake while I was showering. I knew I had to get them out or they would burn so I ran to the stove free as you please to get the cookies out. I was home alone. No one was ever going to know. Until.
I grabbed the tray out of the oven turned and tripped, the edge of the hot pan touched my bare skin and branded me for life. It's not necessarily a bad thing you know. To have a scar. A scar will remind you of a different time in your life.
It might have been a bad time and the lesson to be learned is that you were strong and you survived it. It might have been a fun time that ended poorly and now you can look back on it and laugh. Whatever the story is behind your scar it is a part of you. It is something that happened to you and only you.
I have a friend. She has a little girl. To say that this person is over protective is to say that the Grand Canyon is a nice ditch. I will see her following her child around within a fenced backyard as if she is made of the finest crystal and if she touches ANYTHING she might explode. The little girl said to me once, I'm shy! I wanted to say No, honey you're not shy. Just by telling me you're shy says that you are not!!
If you have been entrusted with the care of a child it is a huge responsibility, but please remember part of teaching them how to learn is to teach them how to fail. You will not always be there to protect them or clean up after them. Everything is not going to be perfect when they are small it's ok! They have to start somewhere.
I am the worst! I can't cook with my children because as they are willy nilly with the different ingredients all I can think is I'm going to have to clean that up. I just keep reminding myself that you learn by making mistakes. You have to crack the egg a few times to find out how to do it without getting shells in the cake.
The other night I was at a bonfire with my husband's family. We were all to bring a story. I was reminded of mine by the large scar it left on my face. I can tell you the story to the tiniest of details. I remember everything. Now, a lot of things have happened to me in my life but it seems that the ones that have left scars are the ones that stick out.
Just remember to allow your child to have a few scars, it's good for them!
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