Poor pitiful me.

Do you ever have one of those days where you are quite positive that the whole world is out to get you and that there is not one person on the planet that likes you? I have got to start tracking mine on a calendar because I am quite certain that it has something to do with either hormones or the moon or the earth's gravitational pull or China. Something, I'm not sure what but every so often I get in the middle of the poor pitiful me party and I realize hey, I was feeling this exact same way not so long ago and I remember thinking how very stupid I was when I came out of it.

My mother has another life lesson. She says that if you are feeling bad you should do something nice for someone else and it will make you feel better. IT WORKS! What you don't believe me? You sayin' my mother is a liar? Oh, thems fightin' words right there. I'm serious though, try it.

If you overthink anything you can get it so far fetched that it isn't even possible to be as bad as you have made it in your head. Let's say you have to stay home with a sick child and no one calls to check on you when several were aware of your situation. Now, when you are in the throws of the vomiting and the constant need of a child it can be overwhelming and then when they sleep or are watching a show your mind starts to wander. It goes a little something like this...

Mmm. What is that smell? I cleaned up all the vomit. Is it me? Do I smell like that? Maybe I should shower but if I move I will wake her. Hmmm. Okay, I'm not going anywhere. Yeah, I probably won't go anywhere today I wonder if I would have time to get a shower. I would love a shower but what would I wear? I'm not going anywhere but I had that new dress to wear to church ah man! Hey, it is like 4 oclock and no one has called to check on me. Wow, no one must care. Well, I never. How dare they not at least call to see if I need something anything I mean for goodness sake I'm here alone. Don't they know that? Well, obviously they don't care enough about me to worry. Maybe I will look for another church where they will care about me. I bet the people at the church with the blue carpet would care about me. Blue carpet just screams encouraging caring congregation. Yes, that is what I will do. I will start looking around this week and I will find a new church where at least one person will care enough to call.

See, here is the problem with that scenario. It's all about you! It isn't all about you in this crazy big world. You have to realize early on that there are billions of people in this world and to think that the world stops when you want it to is crazy! Now, I want you to think back. How many times have you known a friend to be home with a sick child and you called or took them lunch or even thought twice about them. If the answer is never well then there you are. If the answer is all the time well then you are hanging out with a bunch of self centered losers and you should totally get all new friends.

A friendship is a full time job. The best kinds of friends are the ones that are not so needy that you have to pamper and cater to them. If we are comparing friends to plants then I will say I like evergreens more than a hibiscus. A hibiscus has to come in in the winter and you have to do stuff to it to make sure it will bloom an evergreen you plant it and you are golden. It will grow and be green all year long. It isn't that I want to take my friends for granted but I am in the time of my life that isn't necessarily about me so much as it is about the ones around me and there already isn't that much me left so I need friends that understand that and respect it. I try to be a good friend when I can really I do.

I guess the message of this little rant is before you get into the old poor pitiful me pot think about something first. Think about three friends who might have it worse off than you and think about something that you could do to lighten their load. Even if it is just a phone call or a note in the mail or if you are making dinner make enough for two families and surprise them with dinner one night. If you start spreading around the happy the happy will come back to you. I promise! You callin' me a liar?