Respect

Did you know that there is a difference between demanding respect and commanding respect?

If you demand respect i.e. screaming and yelling at people in order to get your point across not listening to their perspective simply militantly enforcing your authority and power and refusing to listen to possible other avenues to be explored that may or may not be more effective.  Then you are a tyrant.

If you command respect, then from your position of authority that you have been placed in for whatever reason you can clearly see that the people that you are responsible for are not idiots and they all clearly have the intelligence to complete any task and just might be able to bring a fresh idea that is way better than what you are thinking.

This does not make your employee or underling or whatever better than you it just makes you smart for having hired them.  Giving your subjects creative liberties is not a bad thing.

I am tired of individuals thinking that yelling accomplishes anything other than hurt feelings and discontent in the workplace.

I worked for a man once who I still remember as the best boss I ever had.  I can't tell you exactly what he did as I look back on it other than walking around the office asking if everything was going ok and could he do anything to make our world run smoother and of course attend meetings.

The only time I heard him raise his voice was when a Vice President from another department had yelled at a person from our group.  You would have thought him to be the mama bear in this situation.  He all but punched the man asserting his authority over the situation and the drama was over as fast as it had begun.

If you are using anger in order to get your point across is it really all that effective?  Are you sure?  Because happy underlings are the best asset a company can have whether that is an industrial company, an office or retail setting or be it a home.  Yes, home, if all both parents or one of the parents ever do is yell in order to get their point across or if they are extremely quick to anger in any situation is that really a good thing?

Assess your own personality today, if you are quick to anger I want to encourage you to choose your battles.  The sound of your screams will get old and will only cause to build up walls in places that they need not be.