Now, granted you are going to have some cocky people out there that perceive themselves way higher on the food chain than they ought but give them a few years of people figuring them out and they are going to drop like a rock.
I personally have never been in the "in" crowd. I'm way too quirky, but I betcha there are some people who perceive me to be as such. Mainly because I could talk to a tree. I get it from my daddy. I love people. Ok. Maybe not all people, but I do enjoy a challenge. Grumpy old man that looks like he has gas and I can make him laugh? Score! Pissed off lady and I get a "you so crazy"? Awesome!
However, when it comes to having lots of friends I really don't feel like I do. I'm pretty much a homebody. My husband is my best friend and I enjoy hanging out at home with him and our kids. It's crazy I know!
Do I sometimes long for the Hallmark channel group of best friend ladies that all get along and read from a script of pre-approved topics that are not going to upset me and we all agree on the food and entertainment of every time we get together? Sure. Does that actually exist? Nope. Not in my world. If you have it hold on to it because God has given you a blessing!
I'm really more of a one on one type girl. I don't really like big groups, and shocking as it may seem I don't always like to be funny. The way I can tell if someone is going to be a true friend is if I put down the happy mask and either get quiet or serious. If the person asks me what's wrong they are going to be off the crazy train pretty quick, if we just continue on like all is well....Golden!
I will say that it does bother me though when I find out that a group of people that I know all of them get together and I wasn't asked to join in on the frivolity. I'm not saying I would have gone it just would be nice to know I was nominated. You know?
These are the days when my middle school days of insecurity raise their ugly heads and I feel bad about myself. I hate days like that. If you have days like this too just remember there are billions of people that live on this earth. The group of people that made you feel bad are a mere smoosh in the tapestry. Why not go out and find someone new or even old that you would enjoy chatting with? Why not make your own "in" crowd? I hear it's all the rage.
5 comments:
I hear ya!
We left the 'in' school and friends of 3 years have dropped my sweet girl like a hot potato. I cry for her, especially when all her friends are together and we were not invited.
I had to be at many of the same functions as the 'in' crowd. But never felt like I fit there. I guess it's a blessing to be across town from 'it'. I'd rather be me and be friends just because!
Suck it. (You said I could say that here!) You are definitely "in crowd" to me.
I think you're the in crowd. I've always had rose colored glasses on with my pollyanna dress. I just figure if the one who made me thought I was good enough for him to send His Son to choose to give up all things heavenly to come to Earth for me, then anybody who disagrees can suck eggs.
Doesn't mean I always liked it or didn't hurt when that 1 person hurt me. But it kinda puts things into perspective for me. Plus I've always found way more interesting people outside the popular crowd. I would much rather be real then trying to figure out what I had to do to stay on the inside of the in crowd. It seemed like way to much work for me.
Comments seem to be working, but... I think you read my mind today. I'm right there with you on wanting a nomination, even though I would likely stay home ( tonight, for instance, I am avoiding a neighborhood ladies Christmas gathering).
Me, too! Even though I savor solitude time, I'd like to know someone at least wants me around. And is willing to give me space without getting their feelings hurt.
We are so much a like, except your comedic timing is way better. I knew I liked you.
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