Why is it that when our loved ones are in need of us the most that is when we avoid them like the plague? Not the stuff that is on your teeth when you haven't brushed, the stuff that was in England and is the source of my aversion to cobblestone streets for some unknown reason. I guess either way it would work cause no one likes sweater teeth.
Let's say there is a death in a loved ones life. Everyone is loving and supportive at first they come to the receiving of friends they even bring a casserole but a few weeks into it the person is expected to be back to normal and over the loss of their loved one. I mean enough is enough right? You were only married to them for 46 years get off the sad train and come back to happyland! (Please translate this as dripping with sarcasm!)
Maybe it's not a death, maybe it's some other life changing experience that has rocked your friend's world and you are tired of it being the only thing the friend ever talks about. Or maybe they aren't even talking about it you just feel awkward when you are around them because you don't know what to say and maybe you will offend them or say something wrong and no one would want that!
Guess what? SUCK IT UP! In order to have a friend you have to be a friend and sometimes friends are higher maintenance than they typically are. There are going to be times when your friends just need you to listen or send them a card or take a task off their hands that frees them up a little. It is what friends do!
Just put yourself in the person's position and think to yourself if this were me what would I want? You might not even say anything at all but during this dark time in your friend's life when they need you most why on earth would you desert them?
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