HURF

Facebook is a weird thing.  Socially especially.  I am always baffled when I receive friend requests from people that I am pretty sure hated me in high school, or from people that I perceived were so very different from me back then.  It made me ponder, as I often do and I wound up in the big blue chair to discuss.


I have a HURF.  A highly unfortunate resting face.  Therefore, there are people that will commonly assume that I think I am better than they are or that I am angry all the time simply because of the natural appearance of my face.  This is sad really.  If you will speak to me I will 9 times out of 10 immediately go into happy smiley Erika.  (that 10th time I genuinely am focusing on the demise of some annoying creature but I promise that is really rare.)


Just recently I accepted a friend request from a person I haven't seen in...ok....let us just go with really long time because I did the math and math makes me sad.  Back then she was in the in crowd.  Popular, beloved.  I was pretty sure she hated me.  I accepted her friend request because well...why not?  I'm happy with my life, have I gained weight?  Sure, but let's be honest it is who I am and I haven't spoken to her in this long I'm pretty sure my extra poundage isn't going to make a difference.  Funny thing, according to her facebook wall, we have more in common than I would have ever known.  So my assumption of who she is as a person seems to be at best, off at this point. 


This epiphany led me to wonder if there are people from my past who assume things about me solely substantiated by my HURF.  Do they think I'm a snob?  Do they think I'm a jerk?  Did they hear rumors that are completely untrue about me but because of my HURF they didn't bother to find out the truth.  Or, and this is way more likely, they don't think of me at all and I am totally overthinking this. 


The point to this entry is Do not assume.  Assuming leads to misinformation.  You might be missing out on a pretty fabulous individual just by assuming that they are not.  Speak to everyone make your own opinion about others and go from there.