Ok. So we have discussed my inability to control my weight, my inability to be stylish, my inability to cook consistently...these are all knowns. I want to say right here before I begin this tyraid, I love my husband very much. He just drives me crazy sometimes. He knows he does it, as well as I know that I drive him crazy sometimes. Marriage isn't easy people but when you find someone you love hold on to them for dear life and get ready for one crazy ride.
1. I was wearing a jogging suit last night. The thing is probably 10 years old, I'm sure it is not one of my best outfits in my closet, I was wearing it to walk with the kids around to trick or treat. Therefore dark, therefore why do I care?! (I will insert my husband's response, You should always care!) Ok, but sometimes I don't I want to be warm and comfortable.
My husband's comment was that I needed to change, in fact I needed to throw away my beloved jog suit because it looked horrible on me. He is all about the shock and awe. Can we discuss what he could have said or done that would have been better?
A. He could have encouraged me to put on a costume.
B. He could have gone gotten a glass of water, come over to me to give me a hug, pretended to trip, therein spilling the entire thing all over me forcing me to change.
C. He could have realized that on the larger scheme of things it doesn't really matter, it was going to be dark and life would go on without hurting my feelings and making me feel bad.
2. Halitosis. You know bad breath, funk mouth, what crawled under your tongue and died or worse yet pooed? How do you handle it when you are in deep conversation with someone and they have dragon breath? Next time try one of these....
A. Always carry some sort of gum or mint with you to offer. Keeping in mind that not all humans can have artificial sweetener so if it is me that is offensive I'm all about pure sugar baby!!!
B. Back up, or sit down, or start doing lunges for pities sake just get out of that direct path.
C. Realize that you have smelled worse and do you really want to make this person feel bad? What if you lived before the invention of all things clinical? What would you have done then Senor Fresh Breath?
Ok. This isn't going as I expected the overall theme is choose your words. Realize that what you consider to be constructive criticism is not always required in every situation and your critiques are coming from the way that you see a perfect world. Not everyone thinks the way you do, and I am so very sorry to tell you but there is more than one way to do anything and your way is not necessarily the right way and by no means the only way.
We are all walking around in a broken world. We are broken flawed people and the world throws enough crap at us that we don't need our loved ones criticizing us too, constructive or otherwise.
To sum up: If you don't like the jog suit....hide it. If you don't like their breath...buy them a million different kinds of gum and mints. Just realize that if you are going to critique you must give two compliments to offset the critique. It's the law. I promise I saw it on the internet or something.
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