Truth or Fluff?

Can we discuss something that has been bothering me lately?

I am the type of person that from the outside probably looks like I have tons of friends and is very social.  Want in on a big secret?  I totally don't and I'm totally not.   I'll tell you why.

I am horrible at lying.  If I don't like something you say or something you do I am not the type of friend that is going to tell you what you want to hear.  If I have a vested interest in our friendship I am going to tell you exactly what I am thinking and if I don't I am going to avoid you like the plague.  I'm not proud of it, I'm just telling you the truth.  Funny thing about that is that people don't like the truth therefore, I don't have a whole bunch of people that hang around for long periods of time.

Take your appearance for instance, you know like the times when you have been cleaning all morning haven't had time to take a shower or even brush your hair when you realize it is time to go pick up the kids from school?  I am the type of friend that is going to say something like are you ok?  or some other sort of joking remark.  I am not the type of friend that will say you look so cute!  No, I don't!  I know I don't!  I know that I look about as horrible as I possibly can so why on earth would you lie to me and tell me I look cute?  Unless of course you mean Completely Ugly Too Extremes.  Then by all means Yes, I'm totally cute.

In that brief off handed remark, which I'm sure was meant to make me feel better you have single handedly lost my trust.  I will no longer feel comfortable enough to tell you anything of any value.  I can't trust you to tell me the truth.

I can count on one hand the amount of women in my life that I am completely comfortable with baring my soul to.  God has blessed me with their friendship and I only hope that I can return the gift to them.  Today I want you to be the type of friend you would like to have today.  Be sincere.  Be more concerned about their feelings than your own.  Be a friend.

We are called to love one another.  It's our job. :)