You can pretty much make anything a parable, and I turned this one into the tree was the mother and the child was well...the child. If you haven't read the story the gist is that it starts with the child and tree play together happily but as the child ages the child's needs become more complex and the tree is willing to give completely of itself in order for the child to be happy.
Okay, so, I get it. I understand, but I also want to say. STUPID TREE!
As parents we give 100% of ourselves to our children. Especially in the earlier years as to be expected, but if as the child grows we are not teaching our children to not just take but to also give what are we teaching them?
I watch these horrible reality shows and sadly I witness poor parenting in my everyday comings and goings. It might not be perceived as poor parenting because the parent is doing what they perceive to be "what is best" for the child, but might I say that always giving and helping and planning for your child is not necessarily what is "best" for your child?
Your child needs to learn life skills that are not necessarily taught in the classroom. Your child needs to learn that the world does not revolve around them, your child needs to learn that some people have way less than they do and to be satisfied with what they have been blessed with. Sometimes it is okay to not be 100% prepared. A child needs to learn the ability to improvise and how satisfying that can feel.
You will not always be there for your child. You will eventually not be a part of their life and if you have allowed your child to assume that you are the only source for their needs then what will happen to your child?
It's hard. I love to do do do for my kids, but I am not doing them or their future spouses any favors if I completely control their very existence, and allow them to completely deplete mine. Have a wonderful day my friends!
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