Home repair.

When you call a repairman do you tell him what needs to be repaired? Do you call a Mr. Fix it and say there is something broken in this house you have to find it and you only have about 30 seconds before it blows up. Go!

No, that's ridiculous of course not but that is how some of us handle our relationships. I'm guilty of it too I'm not saying it's right I'm just saying I do it. There are days that I am thinking in my head this has been such a hard day if my husband doesn't walk through that door with a mountain dew icee he doesn't love me at all.

So, then when he gets home and he doesn't have the icee that I have not asked for or in any way hinted that I might be wanting. I go to an even darker place. Why didn't he think of me? Does he think I'm fat? Oh, that's it! He doesn't want me to have sugar and get all big and fat well! I'll show him! I'll eat this entire sleeve of girl scout cookies that I have hidden in the freezer. Not healthy huh? Well, it isn't that extreme but it is part of my point.

Imagine that you are the homeowner, your husband is the Mr. Fix it and the house is, well, it's the house. You can switch roles if you want but the house pretty much has to keep its role because that would just be strange if it doesn't.

Here, I will set the scene for you. So, today the refrigerator quit working. You were already running late when you figured this out and you had to stop and clean up the water or it would have flooded the house. This caused you to be late, when you got home you had forgotten about the fridge and went to make dinner realizing that you have now lost all of its contents and you don't have anything for dinner. You call a repair man. A specific repairman. You call a refrigerator repairman. You give him the model number and all pertinent information you can think of. When he comes he probably even has the part he needs to fix the problem. You even pay him at the end of the issue. Cue the husband to come in to no dinner and cranky wife. Husband just sees that after a hard day of work there is no food on the table and he's pretty sure there is smoke coming out of his beautiful brides ears.

My point is. Communication is key to a healthy relationship. When you are upset with your husband tell him why, give him the tools he needs to fix the problem, make sure he completely understands all that you have experienced. You could also pay him but that would be weird.

Just make sure that you always remember that the world does not revolve around you and your spouse has had an entire day of "issues" to. Your's might be bigger, they might not but COMMUNICATE!

I would just like to add that this is not pertinent in my relationship at this time so that my husband doesn't think I'm mad. I'm not. Our refrigerator is fine. This is just a post that has been rolling around in my head lately. I promise.