Anyhoo, we were talking about how it bothers him that he doesn't have any friends. Which totally breaks my heart because he is a really sweet boy, he's just quiet. I know that he has friends but he doesn't feel like he does and he doesn't understand why it seems like the kids that are mean and rude and don't follow the rules have lots of friends but he doesn't have any.
I told him how growing up I didn't have friends and that I can distinctly remember coming home crying every day from 5th grade because of the horrible stresses of a little girl with no one friends in the fifth grade. I had friends at church but I only saw them at church. I was popular at church camp but it was only one or two weeks in the summer.
I remember in middle school I had a few friends and then in high school I had a few more but that it wasn't until I went away to college and then worked out in the real world that I met my tried and true friends. He knows them by name and I listed them. He laughed out loud. He said mommy, do you realize that your friends are living in states that are some of Tennessee's biggest rivals in the SEC? I guess it is okay though because at least they are all in the SEC.
My sweet precious child. He has such an intense personality. He learns everything he can about whatever is in his sights. Sports, history, you name it he knows it. Stuff I can't even remember I said he remembers. He gets made fun of for it. Kids his age like sports teams because everyone else likes them or they like the colors of the uniforms, my son likes them because of their stats or some detail like the fact that their team is privately owned by a town of hardworking individuals. I love my precious treasure. I pray that he can keep his thirst for knowledge alive and that the sweet thang can go to sleep!!!!
2 comments:
Erika, I can relate. I was the same way and my son went through the same thing exacerbated by the fact we kept moving and Daddy kept deploying. He's making a few friends now, in Middle School - girls!! He went so quickly from thinking they had cooties to really, really, liking GIRLS. We've traded one problem for another!!! :)
The same is true of Hayden. He is so quiet, but he, like Alexander, notices everything. I foresee his quiet attention to detail will one day help him excel in a job like engineering, architecture, or science. Perhaps the same is true of Alexander. And it's those personalities that end up in those respected fields. I'd be more concerned if you were raising a future politician or Jerry Springer host.
Everyone is different; we all have different qualifications, attributes, and habits that allow us to serve or be used by God in some unique way. (Like I just know He'll use my love of shopping to reach out and change the life of a shopaholic one day! It takes all kinds, right??) And most people change dramatically from child to adulthood. I, for example, used to be painfully shy as a child, but look how obnoxious and fearless I am now!!
You are an awesome Mama! Keep nurturing his individuality. Keep doing like you evidently have been--- praising who God made him to be. With that confidence and your support, he can grow through the upcoming "awkward" years into just the kind of man God intends to use to do great things!!!
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