Okay, this isn't a competition it is mainly an observation on my part. I had my son first and while I want for him to have friends it doesn't seem to be as much of an issue for boys. You give a group of boys a ball and they all just figure it out ball equals play and its on. Sure you have ball hogs and other sorts but for the most part they figure it out. Girls on the other hand OH MY WORD! I don't remember this from my childhood so I'm not sure what the deal is but this whole she's not my friend because she looked at me twice or she said I wasn't her friend anymore because I had white milk instead of chocolate milk. For goodness sake!
So, I started remembering my friendships from elementary school. You know the ones that have stood the test of time. Elementary....None. Not one. Sure I have reconnected with a few people on facebook but tried and true know my kids, speak to on a regular basis, know my likes and dislikes friends not one. I'm sitting here making sure but I'm pretty sure...nope. Not one. Okay, so take it to middle school. Again facebook has played a large role here so the number bumps up to 3. 3 women that if I were to call them I would A. have their telephone number and B. Be able to talk to without it being weird. Okay, so high school. So, those three are from middle school so I can't count those so.....Hmmm. From actual high school? Okay this is getting difficult. My point is NOT MANY!!! College and Work and Kids. That is where the beef of my friendships come from.
I can count on 1 hand the amount of people that know secrets that would actually embarrass me. You know the people that if you were to call them at 3 in the morning they wouldn't hang up on you? The ones that were there when you have lost a loved one. The ones that your kids know?
I want to tell you a few of my favorite memories, mainly because I am pretty sure I'm the only one reading this stuff and because I can.
One year I gave up chocolate as a New Years resolution. I don't know why I just did, and back then I took my resolutions very seriously. So, I had made it the entire year without taking even one bite of chocolate. I felt so empowered. New Years Eve of the upcoming year my husband and I decided to have dinner with a dear friend and her husband. I would make dinner and then we would go to their house for dessert and the countdown with Dick Clark. We got to her house and I could smell it. Chocolate EVERYTHING. She had made cakes and pies and her famous cookies. As the New Year started to count down my wonderful friend grabbed a cookie and as the clock struck midnight she shoved a cookie in my mouth! Best cookie ever! Sweetest friend ever. This is a friend that has the goods on me and would not be afraid to use it if need be. She will remain nameless but she knows who she is....I love you, sweetie!
I just want to say that in order to have a friend you have to be a friend. It isn't about what you do for someone, because if it is then they aren't really your friend they are a moocher and you need to run away. It is general give and take sometimes you are the listener sometimes you are the talker. Sometimes you are the one pulling the other one out, sometimes you are armpit into it and have to let them get you out! Sit there right now and think who do you really love? Not love love like naked love or parental love I mean you are very happy that God has put them in your life to help make your load lighter! Have you told them? They would probably like to hear it.
One other thing. That sweet friend tried to send me her fabulous cookies for Christmas and are you ready for this? The mailman ate them! The only thing she got back was parts of the top of the box. Not a happy me.
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